Motivation: YES YOU CAN – or can you really?

“There is no such thing as impossible! You can get it, if you really want it!”

These sentences sound like pure motivation. But do we actually believe in them? And if so- how long does this belief last? What happens after we fail for the first or even the second time? We frequently witness that irrational belief systems like that may promote euphoria and make us set goals for our future, but do not help with actually reaching these goals. Quite the contrary is the case: sentences like that seem to inhibit the realization of our goals. To be realizable goals have to be realistic. Realistic goals help us to achieve our life plans and wishes. In our stress ich will! - ich kann! - ich werde!expresscoaching we use a magic word to set objectives:  SMART.

S stands for specific and puts your goals in concrete terms. Your goal has now become more than a declaration of intent. M stands for measurable. The letter A stands for your goals attractivity. Is your goal generally reachable and therefore realistic? That’s what R stands for. Last but not least there’s the letter T. T stands for the termination of your plan.

Ok. So now the rest will take care of itself, right? No, unfortunately not! Now is the time that the difference between an optimist and a pessimist will become obvious. Everybody knows the classic saying: a glass can be either half empty for the pessimist or half full for the optimist. But not even the most positive optimist would say: “Awesome, this glass is brimful!”, because that just wouldn’t be the truth. The reason is, the optimist is not just a spin doctor who likes to pretend.

To come back to the first sentence of this article: There actually are things that are impossible if you rely on beliefs that are built upon euphoria.  Most of these irrational beliefs set standards to yourself, to others or even to universe that are way too high. The likelihood that something happens that simply makes these beliefs lose the ground under their feet is very high. Would you like to hear some examples for beliefs that might sound familiar? How about: “Someday, I am sure they will thank me for it” or “It won’t work without me” or “I do not make any mistakes”.

The opponents of euphoria beliefs are the so called tolerance beliefs. Tolerance beliefs sound like “It’s ok if some of the people are not grateful” or “It will work better with me” and “It’s ok to make mistakes”.

Don’t the latter sound more pleasant, sustainable and appropriate? Wingwave coaching will quickly eliminate stress-provoking and frustrating euphoria beliefs and change them into comfortable, reachable and sustainable tolerance beliefs. Afterwards we will be able to change “You can get it if you really want” into “Strive for progress- not for perfection”.

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